Finding a Name that Fits
The process of naming a baby is exactly that…a process. On the rare occasion, the decision is quick and both partners are on the same page. But that is truly rare. The more typical journey towards a name involves a lot more work than that, and it’s a decision that lasts forever. What will the child’s kindergarten friends say about their name? Is there any possibility that it could rhyme with something that will get anyone in-school suspension later in life? What will the grandparents say? Will they be 9 years old before they can actually spell it? So much pressure!
It truly is one of the trickiest parts of pregnancy for many couples. Each person peruses the name books and websites far more than they would like to admit, each chooses the ones they love. Then comes another hurdle. Waiting. Waiting to find exactly the right time to mention the newly adored name to your partner in hopes that they will hear it and fall in love with it, just like you did. Eventually a name is chosen, sometimes before your little one is born, and sometimes you leave the hospital with your new little one all bundled up and still officially called “baby boy (insert last name).” Sometimes the naming process can take a while!
In the middle of all the preparations you must make to welcome this baby earth side, one thing is often forgotten. Just as you name this sweet little baby of yours, they name you too. Before your little one comes to you, you are known by your first name or a nickname perhaps, often you are known by the name your parents gave you. It is a name that has served you well. But in the process of birthing this new little one, you too are re-named. “Mama” or “Daddy” becomes your new name. A name you will soon hear dozens of times a day every day. A name that changes everything. And the journey to that name isn’t an easy one either. Some families walk the path of infertility. Some labors last hours longer than anticipated. Some babies exist only in their mama’s belly and then in their parents heart. Some babies chose to be born by a cesarean delivery. Some need some extra help. Some come easy and straight into their parents arms ready to face the world. Sometimes the naming process can take a while!
The truest thing about this journey though is this, however your little one comes, they come with a story, and in the process of that story unfolding, you, yourself, are named. And your name is beautiful. And above all, remember this. Your new name, it fits you well.